01 Sep WHY DO WE COMPARE OURSELVES TO OTHERS?
COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY – Theodore Roosevelt
THE MEDIA BARRAGE.
Daily we are confronted, whether we like it or are aware of it or not, with advertising and marketing campaigns shoved in our face with things to have, be it material objects or body images promoting a supposedly better life.
With displays of a happier person because they have the better body, nice car, dream home, holiday to an exotic location, brand label clothing and accessories to match and the list continues on and on……..
If we were to really take notice and have an awareness around just how much these messages are bombarding our life on a regular basis, I think we would be shocked, I know I am. But mostly we are blinded by just how much this constant advertising surrounds us and how, on an unconscious level, it is affecting us. It’s subtle, but that’s the aim, and it works.
Having the ‘on trend’ brand label can make a statement. It displays a level of success and if this is something you aspire to have, it makes you feel good and is how you celebrate your achievements, then bravo and congratulations. Wear that outfit with pride and confidence girlfriend because you deserve it!
WE’RE ALL DIFFERENT, SO WHY COMPARE?
Probably because it’s human nature to observe others. We see what they’re wearing, their hair style, the shoes, bag, sunglasses, the car they’re driving, what they’re eating…..anything and everything. We are so fascinated by other people. We may know nothing about them, but through our observation, we judge, critique, like/dislike and have them summed up completely by what we see. What they display to us externally has our internal mind and emotions revved up.
Social media like Tumblr and Instagram, where the platform is a visual one and we can follow people that we like and motivate us to be like, not all the time, but we can be inspired by them, their lifestyle and the images they display. Comparison can poke its nasty head in here at times because once again, we see images that we like and would like to one day aspire to. Sometimes just liking the image can be enough for us and we can continue to scroll through and move on, because let’s face it, there are so many images that we see that it’s difficult (well it is for me anyway)to remember all the ones we liked, let alone remember. Do you feel the same?
COMPARISON IS A VERY FOOLISH ATTITUDE BECAUSE EACH PERSON IS UNIQUE AND INCOMPARABLE. ONCE THIS UNDERSTANDING SETTLES IN YOU, JEALOUSY DISAPPEARS – Osho
This is such a beautiful quote to always remember when you fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others. You are a unique individual and know that there is no one in this entire world who is like you. You are you and that’s a beautiful, wonderful thing.
TODAY YOU ARE YOU, THAT IS TRUER THAN TRUE. THERE IS NO ONE ALIVE WHO IS YOUER THAN YOU –
You need to remind yourself often of the above quote by Dr. Suess because it’s huge and one that puts everything into perspective. It’s so easy to lose sight of what’s important to us all and who you are as an individual and what you can and do offer the world is unique and totally original. You have a gift/s that you were born with so please don’t hide them away and think that no one cares or aren’t interested in what you have to offer, because that’s playing so small and it would be a shame, not just for yourself but for all of us, if we weren’t able to see you shine and reach your full potential.
Those moments when you are comparing yourself to others possibly because they had or did something that you wished you could’ve had or done, had you been brave enough to do so, and maybe that’s why you noticed them. Next time you see yourself doing the comparison thing, STOP the internal checklist and chatter going on in your head, and instead congratulate them, either to yourself or better still, tell them and let then know how amazing they look (or whatever it is that you notice about them and admire). It’s usually because we do admire something about those that we compare ourselves to and that’s what brings up all those other negative emotions.
Isn’t admiration and congratulations so much better than comparison and the deeper hole we dig for ourselves? Hell yes!!
When you start to do this, you’ll not only feel lighter and happier within yourself but the habit of comparing your life to others will cease and be a thing of the past and living your life with a new outlook and perspective will begin. Now take a moment to admire and congratulate YOU because that was a massive hurdle and habit to get over. Hip Hip Hooray!!!
It’s amazing what a little awareness and clarity can do to get on with living your life on your terms and not through other people’s social media accounts.
I’m proud of you and your success/s and would love to hear how comparison has held you back from living your life on your terms in the comments below?
Yours in health & happiness,